It just occurred to me yesterday that polygamy is one of the most wonderful things that Allah has granted to the womankind.
It is well known that woman in the middle east are more demanding and powerful within the family. They enjoy full rights and are the key decision makers when it comes to family matters. Husbands are 'forced to treat them in the best of their manners', otherwise she can just say good bye wihout much hassle. It is easier for her to find another partner, rather than their husbands, if she is ready to decrease her mahar demands (Mahar is just the opposite of dowry - the girl receives and does not pay anything). The husband, on the other hand has to pay for the children's monthly expensed and start gathering money to pay mahar for the next bride. So, a broken marriage is equally damaging for both husband and wife, and perhaps it is relatively harder for the husband to continue his life with another marriage. This demand that the women have is what creates the balance/equivalence of power in the institution of family, since the explicit leadership of the family is given to the men.
Islam is a religion which takes a whole or none approach. Practicing what people like and avoiding what they don't is nothing but cheating the religion. If people do act such, they will pay for it, either in this world or in the Hereafter or in both.
Girls in this Island don't like or let their husbands marry another one. They will fight their best against it. They try their best to impose a different model -monogamy- instead of the polygamy, which is bestowed upon us by The Almighty. And, take my words, they ARE paying for that. They have lost their demand described above. Since men have inherent financial superiority and the leadership in the family, the decrease of women's demand results in a power imbalance in the family which make women weak and vulnerable. Breaking off and starting a new family life is not at all an option for the women folk in this Island.
Scientifically, forced monogamy is not what is meant for the human race by nature. The history and reality, let go my theory above, stands a proof to that pure monogamy is not going to work.
You see girls, you can't force your husbands to follow monogamy. Because,
1. They won't follow. (By hook or by crook)
2. You lose your demand and come to a position where you are now.
You cheat Allah? It fires back.
It is well known that woman in the middle east are more demanding and powerful within the family. They enjoy full rights and are the key decision makers when it comes to family matters. Husbands are 'forced to treat them in the best of their manners', otherwise she can just say good bye wihout much hassle. It is easier for her to find another partner, rather than their husbands, if she is ready to decrease her mahar demands (Mahar is just the opposite of dowry - the girl receives and does not pay anything). The husband, on the other hand has to pay for the children's monthly expensed and start gathering money to pay mahar for the next bride. So, a broken marriage is equally damaging for both husband and wife, and perhaps it is relatively harder for the husband to continue his life with another marriage. This demand that the women have is what creates the balance/equivalence of power in the institution of family, since the explicit leadership of the family is given to the men.
Men's leadership and women's demand are supposed to form a wonderful mixture and be 'The formula of success' of the society.
Islam is a religion which takes a whole or none approach. Practicing what people like and avoiding what they don't is nothing but cheating the religion. If people do act such, they will pay for it, either in this world or in the Hereafter or in both.
Girls in this Island don't like or let their husbands marry another one. They will fight their best against it. They try their best to impose a different model -monogamy- instead of the polygamy, which is bestowed upon us by The Almighty. And, take my words, they ARE paying for that. They have lost their demand described above. Since men have inherent financial superiority and the leadership in the family, the decrease of women's demand results in a power imbalance in the family which make women weak and vulnerable. Breaking off and starting a new family life is not at all an option for the women folk in this Island.
Scientifically, forced monogamy is not what is meant for the human race by nature. The history and reality, let go my theory above, stands a proof to that pure monogamy is not going to work.
You see girls, you can't force your husbands to follow monogamy. Because,
1. They won't follow. (By hook or by crook)
2. You lose your demand and come to a position where you are now.
You cheat Allah? It fires back.
1 comment:
Great. Than live your perfect islamic lives in your own country. And don't force your "superior" solutions on others, especially in foreign countries, where you are mere guests.
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